I am not one for being trendy but for some reason I really want some good looking Dad accessories and these may end up on my birthday list.
The first item is a Dad bag which is like a trendy (cloth or leather) man bag but slightly bigger to accommodate the necessary accessories of a baby (nappies, cream, lotion, action man etc). I have found a few at http://www.dadgear.com/ which looks like my work one and I think it would be make me look like a dad with a plan.
The second item is a baby carrier. This is basically a manly sling and by that I mean more like a titanium rucksack. It straps on like a rucksack and hold your baby either in front or behind you (in front for me of fear of falling backwards). They look sturdy but best of all they free up your hands for shopping, playstation or just because a mans hands need to be free. They vary in price but Mother-care seem to have a good range so as will start there.
I may not buy any of these as a plastic bag and my expensive pram should realistically do for my outside ventures but I am starting to desire more trendy clothes and accessories for when I am a dad about town.
Thursday, 28 March 2013
To Faint or not to Faint that will be the question!
I am only human and so I have many flaws such as my love for beer, ice cream, movies with Paul Rudd in and music by Justin Beaver (I know I should be shot, and if it helps I do have some manly Metallica on my iPhone as well).
One flaw has me worried in particular and that is that I am squeamish. For most of my life this has not been a problem, I have collapsed a few times but generally I know the signs and some deep breaths and sugary goods can prevent me from passing out.
What worries me is the fact that the birth will contain blood as well a my partner screaming in pain (or at me for collapsing). I reckon blood wise I will be ok as my mam accidentally cut her wrist (with a plant pot believe it or not) a while back and when I got to her there was allot of blood (including some pulsing out of her wrist) and I did some first aid and got her to the hospital and it was only when I had to fill in the paperwork at the hospital and had time to think about it that I started to feel faint.
I also worry that I will worry about it so much that it will be a self fulfilling prophecy, however to make it easier on me and my wife we have asked her sister to be in the room as well to step in should I need to collapse.
Only time will tell how this one goes?
One flaw has me worried in particular and that is that I am squeamish. For most of my life this has not been a problem, I have collapsed a few times but generally I know the signs and some deep breaths and sugary goods can prevent me from passing out.
What worries me is the fact that the birth will contain blood as well a my partner screaming in pain (or at me for collapsing). I reckon blood wise I will be ok as my mam accidentally cut her wrist (with a plant pot believe it or not) a while back and when I got to her there was allot of blood (including some pulsing out of her wrist) and I did some first aid and got her to the hospital and it was only when I had to fill in the paperwork at the hospital and had time to think about it that I started to feel faint.
I also worry that I will worry about it so much that it will be a self fulfilling prophecy, however to make it easier on me and my wife we have asked her sister to be in the room as well to step in should I need to collapse.
Only time will tell how this one goes?
Heartbeat
To date my favourite part of the baby so far has been the heartbeat. The scan pictures are great but as I mentioned previously they did not move me in the way I expected. The heartbeat on the other hand to me is amazing and fills me with a sense of joy each time.
I have the audio file on my phone and I often listen to it at work or at home and it always puts a smile on my face (sad I know) and Its weird because to anyone else it's just a fast heartbeat. There is nothing special about the sound and could be confused with a small animal heartbeat, however I can't get enough of it.
I don't believe in God but if we were designed we were designed well as when it comes to your own children even the most boring of things becomes interesting.
For all you fathers to be, if you cannot be there ask your wife to record the heartbeat on her phone and send you it where ever you are (I was in another country).
I have the audio file on my phone and I often listen to it at work or at home and it always puts a smile on my face (sad I know) and Its weird because to anyone else it's just a fast heartbeat. There is nothing special about the sound and could be confused with a small animal heartbeat, however I can't get enough of it.
I don't believe in God but if we were designed we were designed well as when it comes to your own children even the most boring of things becomes interesting.
For all you fathers to be, if you cannot be there ask your wife to record the heartbeat on her phone and send you it where ever you are (I was in another country).
Scares so far
Every pregnancy will have its scares and it would take a while to list them all so I am just going to tell you about some of the ones I have experienced.
Squishy Tummy - at a certain stage the bump becomes a proper bump the mum can be proud of. It's rounder and is firm and gives that feeling of yes I am pregnant. My wife's bump was like this for a few weeks and all of a sudden one day it went squishy. Any sudden change at this stage will worry the mother (I must admit I was rather worried). Fortunately this one can be researched on google and this is the result of the baby starting to turn around in the bump in preparation for the birth. What makes the bump solid is how much and where the baby is pushing out of the bump and therefore as it moves around the bump will actually change shape.
Freezing - as the third trimester develops you will get use to the baby kicking regularly and you come to expect kicks at certain points. This is usually when your being lazy as movement on your part actually can rock the baby to sleep. Due to several reasons including how much amniotic fluid is around the baby where it kicks it can suddenly stop. This is very scary as you automatically assume something is very wrong. My wife got so scared on the second day that she got a midwives appointment during work to verify everything was ok (which it was). This hit me hard as I was away with work and could not be there to help (its hard hearing anyone cry knowing there is nothing you can do, never mind the mother of your child).
My advice for any parents to be is to not panic. The midwife service is excellent (you can ring anytime) and I would advise using them for any panic situation even if its just to give price of mind.
Squishy Tummy - at a certain stage the bump becomes a proper bump the mum can be proud of. It's rounder and is firm and gives that feeling of yes I am pregnant. My wife's bump was like this for a few weeks and all of a sudden one day it went squishy. Any sudden change at this stage will worry the mother (I must admit I was rather worried). Fortunately this one can be researched on google and this is the result of the baby starting to turn around in the bump in preparation for the birth. What makes the bump solid is how much and where the baby is pushing out of the bump and therefore as it moves around the bump will actually change shape.
Freezing - as the third trimester develops you will get use to the baby kicking regularly and you come to expect kicks at certain points. This is usually when your being lazy as movement on your part actually can rock the baby to sleep. Due to several reasons including how much amniotic fluid is around the baby where it kicks it can suddenly stop. This is very scary as you automatically assume something is very wrong. My wife got so scared on the second day that she got a midwives appointment during work to verify everything was ok (which it was). This hit me hard as I was away with work and could not be there to help (its hard hearing anyone cry knowing there is nothing you can do, never mind the mother of your child).
My advice for any parents to be is to not panic. The midwife service is excellent (you can ring anytime) and I would advise using them for any panic situation even if its just to give price of mind.
What's new? Everything and nothing!
It's been a while since my last post but nothing much has changed since my last post yet everything has. It's a slow process but I have seen some changes in me as we'll as my wife.
First off the bump has got much bigger from a few weeks ago. This new size is having an effect on how much my wife can do for example if we walk anywhere we have to stop allot and she is getting more tired much like the first trimester. All these are pretty text book changes for the mother but what about me?
The first thing I noticed is I often now well up a little when something reminds me I am having a daughter. This could be watching an advert for one born every minute to reading a book which mentions a daughter. This is strange for me as I don't cry often (I have even been accused of having a whole where my heart is) however it only lasts a moment and I can often pass it off as an issue with my contact lenses.
The second thing I have noticed is I treat my baby as a normal person, such as saying hello when I come in from work to talking to it before I go to bed. You would think such things would make you feel silly but it feels so natural and reading facts such as the hearing is now developed and sounds at this stage will be familiar once it is born
The final thing is the concept of looking after someone else and never having free time again is becoming less scary and even desirable. I think as it is a long process I am now ready for my daughter to be here and almost wish she was here now.
First off the bump has got much bigger from a few weeks ago. This new size is having an effect on how much my wife can do for example if we walk anywhere we have to stop allot and she is getting more tired much like the first trimester. All these are pretty text book changes for the mother but what about me?
The first thing I noticed is I often now well up a little when something reminds me I am having a daughter. This could be watching an advert for one born every minute to reading a book which mentions a daughter. This is strange for me as I don't cry often (I have even been accused of having a whole where my heart is) however it only lasts a moment and I can often pass it off as an issue with my contact lenses.
The second thing I have noticed is I treat my baby as a normal person, such as saying hello when I come in from work to talking to it before I go to bed. You would think such things would make you feel silly but it feels so natural and reading facts such as the hearing is now developed and sounds at this stage will be familiar once it is born
The final thing is the concept of looking after someone else and never having free time again is becoming less scary and even desirable. I think as it is a long process I am now ready for my daughter to be here and almost wish she was here now.
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