Our initial idea was to stagger the visits to keep numbers down but this means everyday you have visitors, just not in great numbers.
In the first week on a usual day it would take us until 1 or 2 pm to get downstairs (after several feeds, nappy changes and a bath). Visitors would come after this and often the baby would be asleep. The baby might wake up at some point which is nice for visitors but often she would immediately need feeding (frustrating for visitors as my wife and daughter disappear upstairs)
Visitors would usually leave at around or after tea time after seeing the baby and then me and the wife would spend time feeding and changing the baby before spending a little time with her whilst she is awake
When she goes back to sleep at 7 ish we can grab some tea and have a few hours before she wants feeding again and the night routine starts
Now for us this repeated everyday for a week so you never get anytime to either nap (due to no sleep) or maintain the house (clean, shop etc) and we ended up asking visitors to chip in
When we did finally get a free day we did not know what to do withour selves and sitting down and watching tv made us feel guilty
Visitors are great and its amazing to see everyone enjoying the new baby, however my advise is be firm with visitors (I don't mean shun them away but set some rules and expectations) and have a day off every few days to recover. Also ask them to help out with the daily chores as most will gladly help you out
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